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Books we have in our library that we recommend:

Five Love Languages

The Five Love Languages  By Gary Chapman
Learning to speak the language of those you care about is vital.  Wasted energy and misunderstandings on this topic can totally sabotage an otherwise good relationship.

Hot Monogamy

Hot Monogamy By Patricia Love and Jo Robinson
An essential read for couples to learn the steps to more passionate, intimate lovemaking.  How to turn fizzle into sizzle and have the kind of sexual relationship you will love.

The Self-Centered Marriage

The Self-Centered Marriage
By Hal Edward Runkel, LMFT
Wonderful approach that emphasizes personal accountability and a fresh way to connect to your partner.

the Five Languages of Apology

The Five Languages of Apology
by Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas
Knowing how to apologize eludes many couples. This book clears up the mystery, explaining that the way you may be trying to apologize may not be able to be taken in by your partner, leaving both feeling misunderstood and stressed.

Love and Survival

Love and Survival By Dean Ornish
This book is based on a simple but powerful idea:  our survival depends on the healing power of love, intimacy and relationships. Amazing research studies along with compelling descriptions of what really makes us sick, and how to avoid the loneliness, isolation and depression that are so prevalent today.

the Sex Starved Marriage

The Sex-Starved Marriage  By Michele Weiner-Davis
A couple’s guide to boosting their marriage libido -- this book is an antidote to the distance spouses feel when differences in sexual desire and misunderstandings wreak havoc in their marriage.

You Don't Have to Take It Anymore

You Don’t Have to Take It Anymore By Steven Stosny
A clear overview of the many aspects of emotional abuse -- and specific steps for how to understand and change the behaviors. When frustrations in the relationship start to become part of the daily fabric of life together, the action plan in this book is essential.

Dance of Anger

Dance of Anger By Harriet Lerner
This classic book can help anyone understand the dynamics of anger that can come up, and most importantly, how to manage the anger into a constructive force. Excellent insights.

The Great American Sex Diet book

The Great American Sex Diet   By Laura Corn
A wonderful approach to getting disconnected couples back having fun together.  Wonderful stories and photos of regular couples are totally relatable. Try it!

52 Dates for You and Your Mate

52 Dates For You and Your Mate
    By David & Claudia Arp
Knowing that date night is a good idea can still leave many couples stuck for new ideas that don’t necessarily cost a lot.  This book is filled with ideas to jumpstart you out of your dating routine.

The New Male Sexuality

The New Male Sexuality by Bernie Zilbergeld
The truth about men, sex and pleasure is addressed in this book on the most urgent questions of men today -- and of the women who love them. An interesting and informative read for men and women.

Love Life For Parents

Love Life for Parents   By David and Claudia Arp
How to have kids and a sex life, too. This is an easy, fun and realistic approach to putting interest back in intimacy, readiness back in romance and the sizzle back in sex for couples distracted and exhausted being parents.

Romantic Antics

Romantic Antics  By Joy and Kevin Decker
Creative ideas for successful first dates, adventurous Saturday nights and playful long weekends.  Lots of sweet, romantic ideas to keep the relationship thriving.

The Essential Enneagram

The Essential Enneagram
    By David Daniels and Virginia Price
Our favorite recommendation for a book on this topic. Short and surprisingly profound, this starter books on understanding the personality types described will answer many questions about your and loved ones behaviors.

The Enneagram Made Easy

The Enneagram Made Easy 
    By Renee Baron and Elizabeth Wagele
Easy to read starter book about the Enneagram personality profile system. Tips on “what’s hard about” being each type, suggestions for growth, and how best to get along with each. Straightforward and fun.

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The Enneagram In Love & Work
 by Helen Palmer
This book on the Enneagram gives descriptions of how different types relate to each other in personal and work situations -- what to expect, how to understand the others’ perspective more clearly.

The Wisdom of the Enneagram

The Wisdom of the Enneagram 
By Don Riso & Russ Hudson
An in-depth description for those wanting to really understand the Enneagram system, by two of the most prolific authors about the types.

The New Peoplemaking

The New Peoplemaking  By Virginia Satir
As mentor of PAIRS’ creator Lori Gordon, and a pioneer in the human potential development field working with families, Virginia Satir’s work is powerful and clear.

Taming Your Gremlin

Taming Your Gremlin  By Rick Carson
A surprisingly simple method for getting out of your own way.  A classic for twenty years, this book lets you know  how to move past the stuck phases in your life.

Scream Free Parenting

Scream Free Parenting By Hal Runkel
Excellent concepts told in an engaging, relatable way that can reduce or eliminate power struggles with your children and let peace reign in the house.

Marry Him

Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough  by Lori Gottlieb
Not just for singles, this excellent book will make single women laugh and squirm and married people appreciate their spouses even more. A reality check that’s needed by all.

What Happy People Know

What Happy People Know  by Dan Baker
This book is filled with positive, practical, insightful nuggets that lead us to the road of happiness. The best of science and spirituality, you’ll find great wisdom here.



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